You’ve been kicking around the idea of hiring a home care aide for your elderly father. He was a veteran who served during the Korean War. You know he dealt with a lot of emotional trials and tribulations during his time in service, but he never really talked much about it.
You’ve found through the years, though, that he seems to be a bit more comfortable working with certain individuals as opposed to others. Since your mother passed away several years ago, you’ve been taking it upon yourself to help support and care for him. Now, though, he requires a lot more care than you can offer.
Now is the time to begin thinking about professional and experienced home care.
Make sure you get his consent, though. Just because your father may need help around the house doesn’t mean you can force him to rely on a home care aide. The more you learn about professional home care services, especially those provided by agencies, the easier it’s going to be for you to convince him this is the right choice to make for his future.
You know he wants to remain home as opposed to a nursing home or some other senior care facility. You believe it’s a reasonable option, as long as he gets some extra help aside from you.
When he consents, that would be the time to sit down and talk to him about the type of caregiver he would like to work with. Some people are more comfortable with caregivers of their same gender. In other words, your father may be uncomfortable relying on a female home care aide, especially if he needs support and assistance getting into our out of the shower or getting to the bathroom for any reason.
Those more intimate, personal details can sometimes be easy to overlook, but they are important. Your veteran father may dismiss some of those concerns at first, which is why it’s a good idea to talk about them in an open and honest conversation.
Instead of discussing the prospect of a home care aide in passing, while you’re packing up and getting ready to go home at the end of the night, sit down after dinner and talk to him about the challenges you’re facing as his caregiver and why you need extra help. When he consents, get a good understanding about what type of caregiver would be best for him at this point in his life.